Are two partners more advantaged if they want to be alone or to be with other people? Would it be desirable for their socialization needs to be small or large?

Obviously, their needs can be anyway – it is important to be similar. If I really like groups and I can’t wait to meet other people and you, my partner, are less sociable, but you really want to spend time with me alone, we have a problem, don’t we? A big one!

That means being compatible in terms of personality traits. In this case it is about introversion-extroversion. Couples in which she and he are rather withdrawn, preferring loneliness instead of agitation, respectively couples in which she and he prefer the excitement of a group, instead of a rather boring calm, are much more likely to be happier.

There is nothing wrong with wanting the company of other people or, on the contrary, preferring very small groups or strictly personal meetings. However, it is good to pay attention to the introversion-extroversion dimension before signing the marriage certificate. The period in which you are in love is not relevant from this point of view.

The experience of falling in love makes the greatest lover of loneliness to stay in a club until the morning and the most sociophile partner to reserve two hours for meditation or contemplation. But these behaviors, energized by the incredible sexual attraction of that period, will not last! Sooner or later, the real personalities will come to the surface, and it will not be easy for anyone to compromise.

Introversion and extroversion have a peculiarity: they do not change, no matter how hard you try. Thus, before making decisions that are difficult to change, it is better to pay attention to how your partner positions himself in terms of leisure. More with each other or together with others?

And this is just one type of compatibility…

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